If you follow me on twitter (tigerwhispers) then you have probably got the drift that I am not always sleeping or living at my house. Well, for the last nine months I have been splitting my times between Jock’s house & my house. The reason why is because Desi is going through a tough patch at the moment & Jock & I felt that it would be helpful to her if both of us were around with her. So my two poor babies (dogs) have been going back & forth with me to his house & my house for the last nine months. Did I mention that he also has two small dogs & a Great Dane (the dane stays at his parents house next door, but lets himself in & out of each house as he choses) at the property. So needless to say it has been a wonderful roller coaster for the last nine months. But I thought I would tell you all what is happening & hopefully now it will start settling down. Though with Jock going to the doctor today, I don’t know. It seems like just as one thing settles another shows up, but that is life.
When Desi was first brought to us from her biological mother’s care she was severally neglected. Both physically & mentally. Well, where Jordan (the father named on the birth certificate) lived at the time there was a family in the next apartment with a little girl that was just about Desi’s age. I don’t exactly how it happened, but the two of them became best friends. At this time Jordan did not live next to his parents where Jock lives. Jordan lived about two hours away. But he brought Desi to see his mother & father every weekend. One weekend about a year after Jordan was granted full custody of Desi, he dropped her off at Jock’s house for the weekend & he left for the weekend saying he would be back to pick her up. He disappeared for six month abandoning Desi. He called Jock & told him that he couldn’t handle it anymore & filed the papers for Jock to take custody of Desi. Problem. This separated Desi from her best friend (Mei-Mei) by two hours. Though by this time she realized that I was closer & could spend time with her, but I was her age. After about three months, the house across the street from Jock was sold & a family was moving in. Jock had never met Mei-Mei’s family so he didn’t know. Desi took one look & started squealing & crying, scaring the daylights out of Jock *she was only about four at this time*. Meanwhile Mei-Mei’s parents knew that they were moving closer to Desi, but had no idea that they were moving across the street from her. So Desi & Mei-Mei were re-united & have to this day remain un-separated from each day. There is a joke between Xue & me that we should go clothes shopping together, cause they wind up in each other’s closet anyway. Desi & Mei-Mei are like twins, if one has it then the other does to. Half of Desi clothing & toys are at Mei-Mei’s house & vice versa. After about a year & a half a single mother & her daughter moved in to the house on Jock’s other side. So enter Ashleen into the twinhood (as we used to call the two of them). Ashleen went to school with both girls & became really good friends & so our twins became triplets. Jock has no clue what to do when all three are at his house, lol. That is how things have been up until nine months ago when the bomb exploded as Desi calls it.
Nine Months Ago to Present Day
During the early spring, Mei-Mei wasn’t feeling very good, but Xue & Ting (Xue’s Mother that was visiting to help with Pei the baby) wasn’t really worried just figured that Mei-Mei was catching a spring cold. But as springtime progressed Mei-Mei wasn’t feeling any better so Xue set up a doctor visit. The weekend before Mei-Mei’s appointment Pei (he is three) & the girls (all three) were outside swinging when Mei-Mei passed out. The ambulance was called & she went to the hospital. Desi was inconsolable & so Jock called me to come & see if I could get her to calm down. Before this time the two girls had never been separated for longer then a couple of days, but Desi was very upset. Once I got there, I finally got Desi to tell me that Mei-Mei was hiding how bad she was feeling & how much pain she was in. So I was sitting on Jock’s couch with two nine year old little girls sobbing & thinking their best friend is going to die trying to get Jock to call Rong (Mei-Mei’s Father) to tell him everything Desi was telling me.
Since I know the hospital won’t let Desi anywhere near the rooms, I stay home with Ash & her while Jock goes to see if he can help Mei-Mei’s parents. He comes back home after about three hours. By this time I have gotten both girls calmed down & sitting in Jock’s office/study reading. He then informs me that Mei-Mei is on her way to Tulsa, OK to the cancer hospital. The doctors found that she had multiple tumors & her white count was very very high. The doctor gave Mei-Mei two options either Tulsa or St. Jude’s & Tulsa was faster. Mei-Mei still hadn’t woken up but all sign showed that she was stable. Even to this day Mei-Mei does not remember the ambulance ride to Tulsa. She spent the next nine months at Cancer Treatment Centers of America in Tulsa, OK. She finally got to come home for Christmas. I think Desi busted my eardrums when they saw each other. So far she is tumor & cancer free, but she has to go back to Tulsa in Janurary, March, & May for re-testing. If her blood counts & everything comes up clean then she can go with every two month check up here with her normal doctor. But if at any time the tests come back wrong she knows that she is back in the hospital. Personally, our bald princess (yes, that is what we call her), has done wonderfully. She has manged to remain up to date with her school work (by her choice, parents didn’t approve), stayed up beat through out the whole painful treatment, & *this is my most painful part* didn’t mind the loss of her waist length silky black hair *I still want to cry over that*. She is quite proud to run around the town bald & thinks it is the funnest thing when people look at her twice.
Mei-Mei’s team of doctors were very strict about her treatment. They refused to let anyone under the age of 16 in to see Mei-Mei & everything that was brought to her had to be disinfected. But she still managed to be upbeat & talked with Desi & Ash via webcam & cell phones. *trust me those phone bills were not pretty* Her mother moved to Tulsa to stay with her during her treatment & her mother’s workplace tried to fire her for not showing up. So Rong & Jock had to go settle that. For some reason, Jock didn’t think that me putting my fist through Xue’s boss’ face would help the situation. I thought it would help a lot since he had the nerve to call her & tell her that she was fired if she didn’t come into work that day when he knew she was with her daughter. Pei was basically taken care of by Jock, Pei’s grandmother & Rong, when Rong was off work.
Desi throughout this entire situation has semi reverted back to when she was first brought into our lives. So she has been really clingy & not wanting to be left alone. She is still afraid that Jock & I are going to abandon her & disappear. Though we keep telling her that we won’t & her therapist is working with her, the situation was just more then Desi could handle without both of us in the house with her. Normally, I just come & spend Saturday night with Jock & Desi. Though Desi & I talk every day, Jock is the one that mainly takes care of her, due to my seizures & other medical problems we both decided that was just not something she needed to have around after her biological mother & her problems. But with Mei-Mei being sick & Desi having so many emotional problems from it we both decided that I should come & stay for a while. So my days have been getting up at 5am; Jock taking me to Marionville to help Mom, then going back home to pick up Desi & Ash for school. Then Jock meets me in Republic during his lunch hour & brings me back to his house. There I wait for the school bus to bring my kids home. Then I babysit Pei, Ash, & Desi until parents arrive around 6pm. Then normally we all (three families) sit down to eat at Jock’s house. Oh, I forgot to mention that Jock gets home around 5pm; then fixes supper with me for the three families. After supper the kids go home to work on homework & Jock & I wonder why we are playing at being married when we aren’t. Don’t worry, we just find the humor in everything. Then about 9pm Desi goes to bed. I go into the office/study to make up the futon for my bed only to get in a play argument with Jock over the fact that we aren’t married/shouldn’t share a bed/no sex for the thousand time only to have him tell me that fine make my bed, & he will just move me when I have fallen asleep. Yes, I sleep deep enough that if you talk to me just right I will sleepwalk & go wherever you want me to. Jock has proven that to me over & over. So I give & we turn his King into two twins, with two separate sets of covers on top. By this time it is now about 10pm & I am exhausted. So I take my bath, throw wet washcloth at Jock’s head to keep him on his toes. Then climb into bed to read for an hour or two. Yeah, I know I am exhausted, but unless I read, I don’t sleep. About 3am we hear the click clack of Bailey (Min Schnauzer) & Copper (Havenese) go down the hall. So one of us has to get up & bring Desi back to bed cause she doesn’t need to hide food away *she used to have to in order to get anything to eat with her biological mother* anymore. Tuck Desi back into bed & then collapse back into bed. Then at 5am wake up & realize that you may have started out with two separate covers but in your sleep you wound up sleeping on top of covers snuggled up to a living male human. *I gravitate to what ever is warm* Trust me, Jock is not the size of my Mac (Min Schnauzer) that normally share my bed.
No, there is nothing I am hiding from Jock. He has already seen me in my birthday suit *is that what it is called anymore?* When you tend to fall out of showers, scream, men tend to come running to see if they can help. Even when you tell them not to open the door. So yes, he has seen me in my most embarrassed & red blushed state. He also knows if he says one word about it again, I with knock his eyes out, lol. My parents & most people that see Jock & I together sweat that we either are married or have been married for a very long time. Usually we just look at each other & go “Ewww! Why would I want you?” to each other. But that is us. Desi finds it hysterical. Jock & I are the type that will have a french fry food fight at McDonald’s & then pick up the fries & do it again. Yes, Desi knows this but she also understands that she is to pick up any mess & she had better not hit anyone other then her intended target & that had better be Jock or I. Plus, our food fights are with food that doesn’t make messes. Last night it was five raw carrot circles that I was going to put in the crockpot for our supper, but Jock informed me that it looked Hillbillyish & he didn’t know if he wanted to eat it. So I threw a carrot at him. He then threw it at Desi & she to Ash & she to Mei-Mei. This is just normal average day in the Jock/Hev household. The dogs loved it cause they got the carrots when we were finished.
Oh my, I have completely gotten off subject here. I am sorry. Anyway. Mei-Mei is back at home & I am still playing two households & probably will continue to play them for at least another month or two. Unless my mother’s health takes another turn for the worst. In November, my mother went to the doctor cause we though she had a cold & found out that she was retaining fuild & it was built up on her lungs & heart. She had gained 45 pounds in six months. Which was very bad since we hadn’t changed our eating or exercise habits. So she is now on meds for it & Dad is watching her. So I’ve had my hands full & honestly, spread way to thin. I have really a hard time keeping up with everything online & offline. That is why this blog is abandoned sometimes & why I have a long hiatus from the QBee. I have to take care of my family. They are first.